Perfect Job but Rude Co-worker, what to do?

Unfortunately rude co-workers are more common than you think. Disrespectful, bad-mannered co-workers exist at virtually every workplace and communicating with them can put a major damper on your day. As you deal with the problem, it's important to not take their behaviour close to heart. They're rude because of something that's going on with them. Don't take their behaviour personally.

Here's what to do when faced with a jerk of a co-worker:

Be objective

Make sure you're not overreacting. Be truthful with yourself about what's really bothering you and look at it from the perspective of both parties.

Consult a friend

Whether it's a colleague you can trust or a friend outside of work, getting a second opinion about a rude co-worker may help you put thoughts in perspective. Ask the friend to help you and start brainstorming ways to address the situation. They won't be feeling anger, pain, or humiliation, and will be able to give you sound, objective advice. No matter what you decide, wait for one or two days before carrying out your plan to prevent any hot-tempered words.

Kill them with kindness

This can easily pave the way to a more collegial relationship. Your behavior may influence theirs in a positive way.

Don't blame them

If the situation persists, approaching your co-worker can be a good idea. Simply tell them how their behaviour makes you feel rather than pointing out their mistakes or telling them what they have done wrong.

Be assertive

Acknowledge the problem in an assertive manner without insulting them and to deal with it as soon as possible -- there's no need to wait until the situation gets truly unbearable.

Come to a specific conclusion

Make sure your conversation ends with specific ways to end their unwanted behavior. Suggest changes or methods that can improve your relationship instead of simply pointing out their rude behaviour. Come away with several ways you can improve the working environment and stick to the game plan.

Take it up with a higher manager

If the problem persists and is a constant distraction at work, going to human resources representative or a manager can help you deal with the co-worker by documenting his or her behaviour. Be as truthful and easygoing as possible when speaking to HR or a supervisor. Prepare a strong case and share it in a positive manner without getting too negative or defensive.

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