Tuesday, April 12, 2011

Get Back in the Game!

Break-ups suck, so here's how to get over your ex!

Take them off that pedestal

Stop acting like your ex was God’s gift to mankind! They clearly weren't perfect if you're done with eachother! Make a list of their annoying traits. Let your buddies bad-mouth her. Do whatever you have to do.

Get closure

When you end it, make sure you’re both on the same page, and for Pete's sake, be honest about why you're breaking up!

No contact

Go cold turkey. Seriously. Even if you break-up on good terms, saying you'll “always be there for each other,” but forget it. You need a few months grace period so you don't experience the on-again-off-again uncertainty. Imagine seeing their picture on facebook with a new flame, it's going to suck, so break it off for a bit!

Work out

It’s a healthy way to work out all of that post-breakup frustration. Getting in shape is also a good way to boost your self-esteem. And don’t forget: The gym (or wherever you decide to work-out) is a great place to meet other people.

Avoid their friends and the places they hang

This helps to avoid awkward conversations, terrible feelings and bumping into your ex. Yes, you may have to give up a great mutual friend, but if you don't, imagine the drama that will start!

Throw away anything that reminds you of them

The sooner you get all that junk out of your house the sooner you’ll get over it! However, it is ok to keep items that don't evoke any emotional connections.

Don't try to get your stuff back

Forget about all that stuff you left at their place. Consider it gone. The $50 you’re going to have to spend to replace a few things is a small price to pay to avoid an ex who could be either desperately needy or irrationally angry.

Hang out with your friends

One of the things you had to sacrifice when in a committed relationship was time with your friends. Now that you’re single, you can reconnect with the buds you left behind.

Exercise your newfound freedom

Being single should be about doing whatever the hell you want. So stay out until four in the morning, hop on a plane to Vegas with your brother, or just sit on your ass and watch whatever they wouldn't let you watch.

Remember the bad times

Focus on the fights and the problems. Recollect their bad habits and shady behavior. It’s like taking a cold shower.

Try your luck with someone else

It’s the fastest and most efficient way to get an ex out of your system. One of the reasons we equivocate about leaving an ex behind is because we worry we won’t find someone new. That’s what sends us crawling back to our familiar, comfy, dysfunctional exes time and time again. Finding a new love interest, even if only for one night, is the best method of countering all those self-defeating thoughts.

Found on Askmen.com

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